September 6, 2010
It probably isn’t the kind of self-portrait you would normally expect to see… nor necessarily want to see. I’m just a thirty year old guy who has had a very bad fitness routine over the past few years. For today’s shot, I elected to capture the one part of my body that I am not satisfied with. Why? Read on.
This morning, I watched a lecture titled “Love the Haters”, delivered by Tim Ferriss during the Next Web Conference 2010. I encourage you to watch it, but not yet… give me a minute. One part of his speech that I found most interesting deals with stoicism, a philosophy – if not a way of life – that I feel very close to. I quote: “Cato, who Seneca believed to be the perfect stoic, practiced this by wearing darker robes than was customary and by wearing no tunic. He expected to be ridiculed and he was, he did this to train himself to only be ashamed of those things that are truly worth being ashamed of. To do anything remotely interesting you need to train yourself to be effective at dealing with, responding to, even enjoying criticism… In fact, I would take the quote a step further and encourage people to actively pursue being thought foolish and stupid.”
Very close friends and family members of mine will tell you that I have little to no shame, and that I totally abhor the notion of guilt. I am free of such mind plagues. Leading my life according to a set of proven principles made it easy. For example, I strive to be tolerant, open-minded and respectful, and I expect the same in return. You aren’t, you’re out. I don’t go wasting my time with unilateral relationships. Nevertheless, my path eventually crossed with negative individuals. While the immediate experience can be very painful, I always found it enriching. It made me stronger. One needs to be exposed to a virus in order to develop antibodies. The same goes with relationships, no matter how brief they are.
What does this have to do with the photograph I took? Well, the collective masses have a tendency to oppose or simply ridicule what doesn’t fit their idea(l) of normalcy. When it comes to beauty, a very subjective topic, we generally yearn for aesthetics that are fed to us by society. My body certainly doesn’t fit that criterion, and the very reason why I chose to photograph it in the first place. I will admit it, I’m not a saint and have mocked strangers – not overtly, mind you – on their appearances alone. So, it’s only fair for me to expect the same treatment. I’m game.
The very fact that I seek to improve my physical well-being, especially the current poor state of my fitness, fueled my motivation to post this even more. While I highly doubt I will get criticisms here, I am ready to embrace them. However constructive they are, they will only push me faster in the right direction: training. Remember, this is not about you, I am only doing this for myself. So, haters, I thank you in advance and… bring it on!
“Love the Haters”, a lecture by Tim Ferriss